When burnout disguises itself as choice
For many women, burnout doesn’t arrive as collapse. It arrives as rational decision-making. “I’ll take something with less responsibility.” “I don’t need that level of pressure anymore.” “Maybe leadership just isn’t for me.”
But beneath those decisions is often not clarity, it’s nervous system fatigue. Chronic exhaustion narrows perspective. It shrinks possibility. It convinces capable women that stepping back is wisdom, when often it is simply survival.
Burnout doesn’t just drain energy. It quietly erodes belief in future capacity.
What happens when women leave at their peak
When experienced women step away mid-career or late-career, something significant is lost not just for organisations, but for society.
We lose:
- judgement forged over decades
- pattern recognition in complexity
- emotional intelligence under pressure
- ethical leadership
- the ability to lead without ego
And many women carry a private narrative: “It’s too late to go back.” It isn’t. But rising again cannot mean returning to the same system, at the same pace, with the same expectations.
My own quiet exit (and return)
I remember the day clearly. I was sitting across the boardroom table from the Chairman when I said, “I can’t work another day. I’ve burned out.”
I had joined the organisation three years earlier, on 9 February 2020. Within a week, COVID arrived, bringing closures, travel bans, border shutdowns, and legislation that changed daily.
Every morning at 11:00 am, we watched the news. Every night, we interpreted announcements that hadn’t yet been legislated, translating them into policy in real time for three countries while supporting people through challenges none of us had faced before.
Over the next three years, the organisation expanded rapidly in the United Kingdom, and we launched in Canada, Singapore, and acquired another skincare brand. The executive leadership team worked across multiple time zones and multiple COVID realities.
There were no pauses. No recovery periods. Two weeks of annual leave felt like a hindrance, not a solution. Sleep became fragmented. Survival mode quietly took over. Leaving wasn’t really a decision in the end. It was self-preservation. My body said no, and there was no negotiating with it.
I took time to sleep and recover, then returned to consulting and project work, where I could apply my experience without the relentless pace. When I was later offered a permanent role, significantly more junior than the roles I had previously held, I accepted it.
I told myself this was maturity. Sustainability. Balance. Maybe this was what the next chapter was meant to look like. But what happened next surprised me. The burnout resurfaced. Another bout of COVID. And with it, a deep sense of defeat.
Not ego, but a quiet inner voice asking: Is this it? Is this the end of your career? You are capable of so much more.
I resigned again and returned to project work, a holding pattern while I worked out what had really happened. With time and distance came clarity. I began asking different questions:
- What had actually caused the burnout?
- Why had it repeated?
- And why was this not the first time across my career?
That inquiry led to deeper research into burnout across roles, industries, leadership levels, and gendered expectations. It became clear that burnout is rarely about resilience or capability. It is about business systems. About nervous system overload. As women, through our beliefs and conditioning, we have learnt to adapt to a corporate world not designed for us, and about unsupported ways of working that quietly exhaust even the most capable people.
That understanding ultimately led to the work I do now, supporting women and organisations to break the burnout cycle, and creating Journey Back To You. Not as a reinvention. But as a return with clarity, boundaries, and purpose.
Rising again looks different, and that matters
For many women, stepping back is not the end of ambition. It is a pause born of exhaustion. For me, rising again did not mean returning to executive life in the same way. It meant restoring capacity first and then allowing leadership to take a different form.
During this time, I was invited to step into a not-for-profit Board role of a private foundation, an opportunity to contribute experience, judgment, and governance capability in a way that aligned with my values. It was a reminder that leadership does not end when you leave an executive role; it evolves.
As I explored governance pathways more intentionally, I also joined professional Board networks to better understand how experienced women transition into Board and advisory roles later in their careers.
Rising again can look like:
- Returning to senior leadership roles within corporate, with clearer boundaries and different expectations
- Starting or buying a business, applying hard-earned experience in a more autonomous way
- Not-for-profit or commercial Board roles
- Portfolio, project, or advisory work
- Mentoring and executive sponsorship
- Purpose-led leadership within communities
- A career in politics, local, state or federal
These are not consolation roles. They are evolutionary pathways. But none of them are accessible while burnout remains unresolved.
You can’t think your way out of exhaustion
Burnout is not a mindset issue. It is not a confidence issue. It is not solved by motivation or resilience training. Burnout lives in the body and nervous system.
Until the stress response settles, perspective remains narrow, decisions skew toward safety, and ambition feels heavy rather than energising. Restoration is not withdrawal, it is preparation. Inspired action comes after capacity is restored.
It’s not too late
If you left quietly. If you stepped back when no one was watching. If you assumed the door had closed. It hasn’t.
But the invitation is not to return to what burned you out. It is to return to yourself first and then rise in a way that honours who you are now, your extensive experience, skills and talent.
This is the space in which Journey Back To You was created to support women to restore capacity, understand the deeper drivers of burnout, and move forward with clarity and intention, whether that means rising again, redefining success, or simply coming back into alignment with themselves.
If this resonates, it may be worth reflecting on whether exhaustion, past, present or approaching has been shaping recent career decisions.
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